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Top 5 Destinations to Remember Loved Ones

Top 5 Destinations to Remember Loved Ones

Allison Gilbert is the author of Passed and Present, and the critically acclaimed books Parentless Parents and Always Too Soon. She is also co-editor of Covering Catastrophe, the definitive historical record of how broadcast journalists covered 9/11. Allison’s work has been featured in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Huffington Post, and on NPR, CNN, FOX, MSNBC, CBS, and ABC. Visit Allison’s Website, Facebook, Instagram, & Twitter. Allison provides presentations and workshops for funeral homes, hospice programs, and related organizations.


Top 5 Destinations to Remember Loved Ones

As I write this post, a Blizzard Watch is in effect for New York City, and a large section of the mid-Atlantic is bracing for a “potentially paralyzing” storm. This kind of weather makes me fantasize about heading someplace warm and drives me to think about travel in general.  Ecotourism. Adventure travel. Volunteer tourism. Specialized travel allows us to build entire trips around particular needs and interests — caring for endangered animals, jumping out of airplanes, building schools in developing countries. Why not plan a vacation around honoring our connections to the past?

What do we call a trip that speaks to the desire to celebrate loved ones in the company of like-minded people? Let’s call it Commemorative Travel.

Nearly every culture has a unique way to remember and celebrate loved ones who have passed away. Below are my top five travel destinations where you can weave acts of remembrance into an already awesome and fun vacation.

“Day of the Dead” - Image from Wikimedia Commons

“Day of the Dead” - Image from Wikimedia Commons

1. Mexico – Día de los Muertos, or Day of the Dead, is celebrated in Mexico and throughout Latin America (and many cities in the USA) on November 1 and 2. Despite its name, the festival is fun-filled and family-friendly. It is a national holiday marked by an entire population breaking away from its normal routine to honor the dead. Communities host boisterous and vibrant parades; amusement parks put on extravagant events. And children eat all sorts of themed candy—skulls and coffins made out of sugar, and lollipops in the shape of skeletons. There are reflective aspects to the celebration, too. Families routinely create small altars in their homes with offerings to those they’ve lost. Items vary, but generally include food, photos, and mementos. Large altars are often erected in parks and public squares.

Lanterns being placed in the Sasebo River in Japan during the Obon (or “Bon”) Festival. Image from Wikimedia Commons.

Lanterns being placed in the Sasebo River in Japan during the Obon (or “Bon”) Festival. Image from Wikimedia Commons.

2. Japan – One of the most spectacular rituals you’ll see during Obon happens at the end of this deeply moving three-day festival. Thousands of candlelit lanterns are set adrift onto rivers and lakes across the country. It’s believed the spirits of the dead return home during Obon; when the celebration ends, the flames guide them back to the afterlife. Obon takes place during the summer, making it a wonderful addition to a vacation. While it is a time to honor the dead, it is not a wholly sad occasion: there are street fairs, carnivals, and plenty of traditional music and dancing.

3. Hawaii – Every year on Memorial Day, the island of Oahu welcomes more than forty thousand people for Lantern Floating Hawaii. Started in 1999, this massive gathering began as a means of introducing Americans to the Japanese custom of floating paper lanterns. Organizers say Memorial Day was chosen because Americans were already in the mindset of honoring their dead. The celebration is a chance for anyone who has ever lost a loved one to remember and honor that relationship in the presence of community.

Western Wall in Jerusalem. Image from Wikipedia Commons.

Western Wall in Jerusalem. Image from Wikipedia Commons.

4. Israel – The Western Wall in Jerusalem is considered by many to be Judaism’s most sacred place. It’s also one of the most important cultural sites in the world, one where tourists of every nationality and faith engage in a private spiritual expression: writing a prayer on a piece of paper and tucking it in between the Wall’s ancient stones. It’s estimated that more than one million notes are placed in the cracks and crevices of the Western Wall every year. The slips of paper contain messages asking for virtually anything—peace, love, health, forgiveness, and strength. Prayers can be for yourself or others.

Junkanoo Parade Costumes - Image from Wikimedia Commons:  Author Information

Junkanoo Parade Costumes - Image from Wikimedia Commons: Author Information

5. The Bahamas – Junkanoo (also known as Jonkonnu or Jankunu) is a mammoth cultural celebration that roars through many Caribbean countries. It’s perhaps biggest, loudest, and grandest manifestation takes place in Nassau, capital of the Bahamas. There the Junkanoo parade winds through city streets throbbing with participants dancing, beating drums, playing trumpets and trombones—all wearing elaborate costumes and headdresses in a riot of feathers and colors. The parade takes place overnight twice every year: on December 26 (Boxing Day), and again on New Year’s Day. While the roots of Junkanoo are debated, it is largely viewed as being steeped in African tradition, having been kept alive—indeed, having flourished—on slave plantations in the eighteenth and nineteenth century. Today, Junkanoo is an adrenaline-charged expression of folk culture and a major tourist attraction.

There are certainly dozens of other examples, and I offer more in my book Passed and Present.


Written by Allison Gilbert (Reprinted with Permission)
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